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Just “Stuff” Everywhere…A letter to Moms

18 Nov

Seriously.  It is probably one of the biggest issues I have struggled with and continue to do so.  Just STUFF everywhere.  Right now my living room looks like a land mine of toys went off, all of my beautiful framed pictures on my PB Studio Wall Shelves are all laid down flat on each of the top 3 shelves because my one year old loves to knock them all down, toddler puffs are on the coffee table, the kitchen table ends up being the hording zone of STUFF and there is laundry in my dryer (my secret hiding place).  BUT I am finally having my cup of coffee that has been warmed up twice while Elena naps and I’m trying to get the energy to work out.  (Enter exhale now) Yes, when we have our precious little ones there is just STUFF everywhere and it can be overwhelming.  I know.  God forbid anyone wants to come over or heaven forbid “stop by”.  (PSA..People don’t do that to Moms of little ones.)  We all know its true, admit it.  BUT, and its a big BUT one day, and I don’t ever want that day to come,  I will have too much time on my hands.  My house will be immaculate and I will miss all that STUFF everywhere. So Moms (and Dads).  Lets try to give ourselves a break.  It is okay that my house is a “mess”.  Lets all say this together.  Hi, my name is ___________________ and it is okay that my house is a “mess”.  It means that we are being great parents and focusing on our kids.  I want to applaud us all for putting our children first. Keep up the good work Moms and Dads!  And in the words of Juan Pablo, “Esss Okay”. 😉 xoxo, Meredith “Children are not a distraction from more important work.  They are THE MOST important work!” – C.S. Lewis  

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A Movement: Lifting Up and Celebrating other Moms

27 Feb

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When I became a Mom and held the precious gift God have given to us, it was the most magical feeling in the world.  I was now living for another.  Every thought, every move was for my precious baby girl.  Anything she needed I was there.  And when I became a Mom I started thinking in extreme detail about how I was gonna do my absolute best and give her the best of everything.  I made decisions for my baby that I thought was best.  For example: breastfeeding vs. formula, co-sleeping vs. crib, making baby food vs. buying pre-made food, staying at home vs. working, private vs. public school etc.  You get the idea.  But for some reason we are or I should speak for myself, I was not at all prepared for the competitiveness of other Moms.  I just couldn’t and still can’t understand the need for Mom’s to judge or criticize other Moms.  As for most Moms, I can assure you they don’t hold their baby and say,  “I plan on making some horrible choices and I plan on being “a bad mom.”   Call me a “glass half full kind gal” but I think most Moms want and try their absolute best!  Whats best for them and their family.  Of course there are bad days but there are also many good days!  I could go on and on with stories that I have experienced or stories my girlfriends tell me on how Moms compete with each other or criticize, but I don’t want that to be the focus.

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What I do want to focus on is how can we change this?  How can we as Moms change something that goes on in our society into something good?  I love the above quote.  “We rise by lifting others.”  Lets have a movement to stop judging other moms but instead lets support one another through encouragement or even a friendly smile.  I love doing this when I see other Moms out in public and one kid is having a meltdown, the other is begging for a toy,  you’ve seen this.  Instead of criticizing what she is or isn’t doing, just give her one of those kind smiles.  You never know what that could do for someone.  My Mom recently received a letter from an old friend in high school that wrote her to tell her the major impact she had on his life just because she took the time to smile at him and say hi, when no one else would. Lets not make the joy of Motherhood like high school by making Moms try to “fit in.”  We’ve been through high school with the cliques and nobody wants to go back.  We all have enough to do in the real world and “ain’t nobody got time for that.”  You see we never know what is going on with others, especially Moms.  Everything isn’t always as it seems and to quote – To Kill a Mockingbird – “You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view — until you climb into his skin and walk around in it.”

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Let’s CELEBRATE one another!!  Let’s CELEBRATE that we are Moms and what an amazing bond that could be for us to all have and share together.  We are the only ones that know what it is like to be Moms.  We are so blessed to be Moms! I can’t tell you how much it means to me to have my dearest and best girlfriends, who are Moms in my corner.  They are just a text or phone call away when I need advice, need help making a decision or just being there to listen to me.  It means the world to me to have these special relationships who are Moms where there is no judgement, no assumptions, no critique.  That’s what I wish for us all whether we are best friends or just a casual acquaintance at a play date, or soccer game etc.

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Another thing I would love is for all of us to CELEBRATE each others children!  I love receiving texts, emails or seeing pictures on social media of my girlfriends child when they just rolled over, or ate solid foods or crawled, or walked or got their orange white belt in jiu jitsu or just plain looking cute!  I CELEBRATE my friends kids!  I want the absolute BEST for them and I know they want the best for mine.  I cheer them on just as I would cheer mine on.  If we LIFT OTHERS, including Moms and their kids, WE WILL RISE!  We will rise in so many ways.  We will feel better about ourselves, and our Heavenly Father see’s our loving and kind behavior just as his son lead us by example.  “Judge not, and you will not be judged; condemn not, and you will not be condemned; forgive, and you will be forgiven;” Luke 6:37.  And my favorite,  Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” Luke 6:31.

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Lets all stop judging other moms, or competing with their kids.  Lets lead our kids by example of being kind to others, especially other Moms.  Lets support one another through encouragement.  We all know what it is like to be judged or criticized in some way by another Mom.  Unfortunately, at some point we all have done this.  So lets start the movement of not judging, of CELEBRATING one another!   And when you get a chance today, tomorrow, any day, CELEBRATE another Mom by LIFTING HER UP!

To all the Moms out there, “I THINK YOU ARE DOING A GREAT JOB!”

xoxo,

Meredith

~Moms for Moms Day is coming up March 4th!  Let’s CELEBRATE one another!!~

Another great blog post to read below: END THE MOMMY WARS

http://blog.thebump.com/2014/02/20/moms-for-moms-day-is-march-4th-join-the-bump-and-ct-working-moms-in-the-fight-to-end-the-mommy-wars/

Thank you to a follower for sending me this picture!

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