Confidence is not “They will like me”. Confidence is “I’ll be fine if they don’t”.

12 Apr

I believe we all need to be reminded of this. We must teach our children this from a young age! The Devil tries to mess with our thoughts and control us to think negatively. About us and about others. If I can share one thing don’t judge people thinking you know exactly who they are and what they are about just by what they look like or what you think you know about them because….

“Everyone is different, and everyone chooses differently, and what everyone needs varies. So I probably shouldn’t take it so dadgum personally when someone doesn’t like me, when someone doesn’t want to be my best friend, when I feel left out or excluded. I mean…I can’t do it. I can’t be everyone’s chic-fil-a sauce. And neither can you.

For some people, you are going to be too salty, and for others, you are going to be too sweet. For some, you will be too bold, and for others, you won’t have enough flavor. You will be too much and not enough for some people’s taste buds to handle and THAT IS OKAY.

That is soooo okay. God didn’t make you to be loved by everyone. He didn’t make you to be one-size-fits-all and generic and boring. He did not send you to this earth so that you could please all the people. He did not create you to be popular or to be invited to all the parties or to be included in every group text. He made you to love Him, and to follow Him, and to carry out His very specific purpose by being your very own distinct flavor.

Your flavor won’t be for everyone. Take a deep breath and learn to be okay with that.

And the next time the devil tries to attack you, or make you stumble over the vicious lie that you are less than, or insecure, or like something is wrong with who you are, because you are feeling rejected, or alone, or unliked, repeat these words. Scream them if you must: I CAN’T BE EVERYONE’S CHIC-FIL-A SAUCE. And then just keep on running the race God has set out before you. Run it hard. Run it good. Run it long. And run it in your very own style.”

Sometimes we ALL need to remind ourselves of this! He did not send us to be a one size fits all generic type where everyone will like you. Instead of focusing on where you are NOT included or liked focus on Him and He will FILL that void. It doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt though. I get it, I do. So if you are feeling down, not included, you know those people are taking behind your back and smiling to your face just brush it off and hold your head high! I truly believe Kindness is a boomerang and always, always choose kindness over being cool!

Xoxo

Meredith

(Some of this in quotations is a beautiful Excerpt from Amy Weatherly)

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2 Responses to “Confidence is not “They will like me”. Confidence is “I’ll be fine if they don’t”.”

  1. Jennifer Maddox April 12, 2018 at 9:16 am #

    So true!!!! Amen!!!😘

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  2. Tricia K. Biensen April 12, 2018 at 11:09 am #

    Goosebumps moment! Thanks Meredith for saying truth. I think sometimes brief comments back to someone or hesitate, think and then respond is key to winning that conversation for you and those around you 🙂 truth will always prevail! Also working on that weak point to make it strong and help others to do the same is all we can do. Utilize your skills and always and give back. Plus forgive yourself and respect yourself too. You are a great mom, individual and wife, friend! Keep that going 🙂 That very thing will counteract the negative. 🙂

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