A Movement: Lifting Up and Celebrating other Moms

27 Feb

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When I became a Mom and held the precious gift God have given to us, it was the most magical feeling in the world.  I was now living for another.  Every thought, every move was for my precious baby girl.  Anything she needed I was there.  And when I became a Mom I started thinking in extreme detail about how I was gonna do my absolute best and give her the best of everything.  I made decisions for my baby that I thought was best.  For example: breastfeeding vs. formula, co-sleeping vs. crib, making baby food vs. buying pre-made food, staying at home vs. working, private vs. public school etc.  You get the idea.  But for some reason we are or I should speak for myself, I was not at all prepared for the competitiveness of other Moms.  I just couldn’t and still can’t understand the need for Mom’s to judge or criticize other Moms.  As for most Moms, I can assure you they don’t hold their baby and say,  “I plan on making some horrible choices and I plan on being “a bad mom.”   Call me a “glass half full kind gal” but I think most Moms want and try their absolute best!  Whats best for them and their family.  Of course there are bad days but there are also many good days!  I could go on and on with stories that I have experienced or stories my girlfriends tell me on how Moms compete with each other or criticize, but I don’t want that to be the focus.

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What I do want to focus on is how can we change this?  How can we as Moms change something that goes on in our society into something good?  I love the above quote.  “We rise by lifting others.”  Lets have a movement to stop judging other moms but instead lets support one another through encouragement or even a friendly smile.  I love doing this when I see other Moms out in public and one kid is having a meltdown, the other is begging for a toy,  you’ve seen this.  Instead of criticizing what she is or isn’t doing, just give her one of those kind smiles.  You never know what that could do for someone.  My Mom recently received a letter from an old friend in high school that wrote her to tell her the major impact she had on his life just because she took the time to smile at him and say hi, when no one else would. Lets not make the joy of Motherhood like high school by making Moms try to “fit in.”  We’ve been through high school with the cliques and nobody wants to go back.  We all have enough to do in the real world and “ain’t nobody got time for that.”  You see we never know what is going on with others, especially Moms.  Everything isn’t always as it seems and to quote – To Kill a Mockingbird – “You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view — until you climb into his skin and walk around in it.”

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Let’s CELEBRATE one another!!  Let’s CELEBRATE that we are Moms and what an amazing bond that could be for us to all have and share together.  We are the only ones that know what it is like to be Moms.  We are so blessed to be Moms! I can’t tell you how much it means to me to have my dearest and best girlfriends, who are Moms in my corner.  They are just a text or phone call away when I need advice, need help making a decision or just being there to listen to me.  It means the world to me to have these special relationships who are Moms where there is no judgement, no assumptions, no critique.  That’s what I wish for us all whether we are best friends or just a casual acquaintance at a play date, or soccer game etc.

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Another thing I would love is for all of us to CELEBRATE each others children!  I love receiving texts, emails or seeing pictures on social media of my girlfriends child when they just rolled over, or ate solid foods or crawled, or walked or got their orange white belt in jiu jitsu or just plain looking cute!  I CELEBRATE my friends kids!  I want the absolute BEST for them and I know they want the best for mine.  I cheer them on just as I would cheer mine on.  If we LIFT OTHERS, including Moms and their kids, WE WILL RISE!  We will rise in so many ways.  We will feel better about ourselves, and our Heavenly Father see’s our loving and kind behavior just as his son lead us by example.  “Judge not, and you will not be judged; condemn not, and you will not be condemned; forgive, and you will be forgiven;” Luke 6:37.  And my favorite,  Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” Luke 6:31.

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Lets all stop judging other moms, or competing with their kids.  Lets lead our kids by example of being kind to others, especially other Moms.  Lets support one another through encouragement.  We all know what it is like to be judged or criticized in some way by another Mom.  Unfortunately, at some point we all have done this.  So lets start the movement of not judging, of CELEBRATING one another!   And when you get a chance today, tomorrow, any day, CELEBRATE another Mom by LIFTING HER UP!

To all the Moms out there, “I THINK YOU ARE DOING A GREAT JOB!”

xoxo,

Meredith

~Moms for Moms Day is coming up March 4th!  Let’s CELEBRATE one another!!~

Another great blog post to read below: END THE MOMMY WARS

http://blog.thebump.com/2014/02/20/moms-for-moms-day-is-march-4th-join-the-bump-and-ct-working-moms-in-the-fight-to-end-the-mommy-wars/

Thank you to a follower for sending me this picture!

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9 Responses to “A Movement: Lifting Up and Celebrating other Moms”

  1. Erin Jeffords February 27, 2014 at 8:20 pm #

    Great point about smiling at other moms when you see they are having one of those days! Really makes a difference!

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  2. Dave Ruddle February 27, 2014 at 10:18 pm #

    Well done, Meredith.

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  3. debra kaplan February 27, 2014 at 10:38 pm #

    I love this!! My beautiful girl Meredith has done it again. Whether you are a mom of one or
    ten, these words touch the heart. I love you girl!

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  4. Gayle Stokes February 27, 2014 at 11:15 pm #

    You have touched my heart .We can all learn a lesson from your letter ,it is so true and so beautifully written.Indeed we all need to lift each other up and as you said , sometimes all a person needs is a smile or a kind word !!!!

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  5. Ashley Allen February 28, 2014 at 5:16 am #

    Amen!! I love this post!!

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  6. Candace R. Wagner February 28, 2014 at 7:27 am #

    Big smiles to you:) Love the message!

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  7. Jenn Strickland February 28, 2014 at 8:00 am #

    Meredith ,
    Thanks for this refreshing words of wisdom! It’s the hardest but most rewarding job- misson I have ever undertaken ! 🙂 I love being a mom and you do sometimes feel like do all these other moms care as much as I do ?? I know you do .
    I always try to help out those mommas with the screaming wild things and smile at them and say ” take a deep breath , I have a little one also . I understand “. It’s like they snap out of what’s happening with the unglued child and realized this happens all the time to all moms and children .
    I’m having a patient party at the plex next sat 3-8 . Its from 1-4 tell them your my guest @ the door . Why don’t you come over and ice skate and have fun with your girls 🙂
    Great job you hot- momma and keep up your great work!!!

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  8. Lori Fowler March 1, 2014 at 12:26 am #

    So true and so well written. Motherhood is hard enough without other people judging you and it means the world to have a supportive network of girlfriends who are also experiencing motherhood. Love you!

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  9. Gabriella Bellamy March 1, 2014 at 9:13 pm #

    Very sweet post. Great point!

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